If you are facing uncomfortable or manipulative attention at work, you may be wondering, Is this harassment? Is this grooming? What are my rights? You deserve clear answers. And at King & Siegel LLP, our award-winning legal team helps California employees understand their rights and take a stand when encountering grooming in the workplace.
Below, we explain what grooming is, how it can be a form of workplace sexual harassment under the law, and the steps you can take to protect yourself. Our goal is to empower you with knowledge and compassion and protect your rights.
What Is Grooming Behavior?
Grooming is a pattern of manipulative behavior where someone builds trust, tests boundaries, and gradually creates a dynamic where the target feels pressured to accept unwanted attention or sexual advances. While many people associate grooming with child exploitation, grooming also happens in workplaces, often by supervisors, managers, or coworkers who seek to exploit power imbalances.
Examples of grooming in the workplace can include:
- Giving excessive personal compliments;
- Asking invasive questions about your personal or romantic life;
- Creating opportunities to be alone with you unnecessarily;
- Offering mentorship or career opportunities in exchange for your personal attention; and
- Slowly escalating physical contact, such as starting with “friendly” touches on the shoulder and ramping it up to caresses on the lower back.
Grooming may start subtly, but it is designed to erode the boundaries of targets and those around them over time. This is why recognizing the signs of grooming behavior is so important.
State and Federal Definitions of Sexual Harassment
Both California law and federal law protect employees from sexual harassment. And grooming in the workplace can be a form of sexual harassment. Let’s take a look at how grooming is subject to the law.
Under California’s Fair Employment and Housing Act and Title VII of the Federal Civil Rights Act of 1964, harassment occurs when an employee is subjected to unwelcome workplace conduct based on sex or gender. This unwelcome conduct can become unlawful harassment when:
- An employee must endure unwelcome behavior to receive work benefits; or
- A harasser’s conduct is so severe or pervasive that it creates a work environment that a reasonable person would call hostile, intimidating, or abusive.
As you can see from what we discussed above, grooming behaviors test others’ physical, social, and emotional boundaries. These are quick ways to make any reasonable person feel intimidated or worse.
When Grooming in the Workplace Becomes Unlawful Harassment
Grooming can be harassment in two main ways.
One Severe Instance
Sometimes, a single act of grooming can be sufficiently serious to create unlawful harassment. For example, if a manager corners you, makes a sexual comment under the guise of “mentorship,” or pressures you to go to dinner alone, that one incident may be enough for a harassment complaint. And if anyone in your workplace tries to test your limits by touching you inappropriately and without your consent, you can take legal action.
A Pattern of Conduct
More often, grooming unfolds gradually. At first, it may look like small boundary-crossing gestures. Over time, the pattern escalates, creating a hostile environment not only for the target but also for coworkers who witness the behavior. California and federal courts recognize that repeated unwelcome conduct—even if each act seems minor on its own—can combine to create an unlawful hostile environment.
Bottom line: You do not have to wait for grooming to “turn into” more explicit harassment before you act. Grooming is harassment, and the law protects you.
How to Take Legal Action Against Grooming
Facing grooming in the workplace can feel isolating. You may worry about retaliation or being disbelieved. But you have options. Steps you can take to protect yourself include:
- Documenting the behavior. Keep a written record of the dates, times, and details of the grooming incidents, and save texts, emails, witness information, and other evidence you can legally access.
- Seeking legal counsel. Talk to an experienced employment attorney about what is grooming behavior and what isn’t—an attorney can guide you, help protect your rights, and pursue a claim if needed.
- Reporting internally. If it feels safe, report the conduct to your supervisor or HR—California law requires employers to take steps to prevent and correct harassment, and federal law may hold an employer accountable if it doesn’t do enough to respond to an internal complaint.
- File an administrative complaint. You may file a complaint with the California Civil Rights Department (CRD) or the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) to resolve the issue.
- File a civil lawsuit. If the EEOC or CRD gives you permission, you can file a harassment lawsuit in civil court.
You have to file a complaint with the government before you can sue in court. You have three years to file a complaint with the CRD and 300 days to file a complaint through the EEOC.
Remember that your employer cannot retaliate against you for filing or helping with a proper complaint. If your employer threatens job termination or a loss of benefits because you complained, you can file a claim or sue.
At King & Siegel LLP, we can handle every stage of the complaint process for you so you can focus on your well-being. You do not have to face this alone.
Remedies Available in Harassment Cases
If you sue or file an administrative complaint, you may be entitled to remedies that aim to make you whole and hold your employer accountable. These remedies include:
- Compensation for emotional distress,
- Payment for lost wages or benefits,
- Compensation for other related financial losses (e.g., healthcare costs),
- Punitive damages for egregious acts of an employer,
- Policy changes in the workplace, and
- Reinstatement or promotion if your career was harmed.
The federal and California governments recognize that harassment can cause deep emotional and professional harm. The law gives you tools to address that harm and move forward.
We Can Help You Claim the Protection and Respect You Deserve
At King & Siegel LLP, we know how painful and confusing grooming can be. Our award-winning team has recovered tens of millions of dollars for mistreated workers across California. We represent employees from multiple backgrounds and industries, and we fight tirelessly to protect workers’ rights and restore their sense of dignity and safety at work.
You deserve a workplace free of grooming, harassment, and manipulation. If you are experiencing grooming behavior or any form of sexual harassment at work, contact King & Siegel LLP online or by phone today. We can listen, explain your options, and stand with you every step of the way.
